Everyone has reached that moment… that one second when you want to take your fist and implant it somewhere. It might be a wall, a steering wheel or (hopefully not) another human being. The fact is today’s day and age we are surrounded by constant stimulation. Everywhere we go there are TV ads, Facebook Posts, Tweets – all about how amazing someone else is and how we are sub-par. Now that, plus the everyday stress of normal life and we hit the boiling point sooner rather than later. If we lose our cool and give into the negative… it’s all about the deals with devils…
So, before you go off the deep end, let’s discuss what not to do:
1. Scream at a loved one when they have nothing to do with it.
If you ever plan on having said loved one in your life for long, this is something you have to deal with. We’re all guilty of doing this at least once.
2. Post something on Facebook screaming about wanting to shoot someone…. or something similar.
Remember EVERYTHING you post is available for anyone to find or read. I might sound paranoid, but the reality is if you put it out there… it never goes away.
3. Saying FML on Facebook or Twitter or whatever other social media outlets.
Everyone is in the same boat as you, just with a different set of cards. You might think the world is ending… Hey, wait a minute… according to some people we only have a few months left so let’s enjoy it! I digress, in all honesty, you’re life is no better nor worse than anyone else. Just find a way to fight the urge to share your rage with everyone.
4. Anything else that you will deem as being a dumb move later on.
Basically, take a deep breath and think before you do anything. It can make all the difference in the world. I don’t think walking around a prison with your pants hanging low is how you envision your future to be.
Here’s what you can do:
1. Write about it
Okay, sure you can laugh all you want about this but the fact remains that it does work! Maybe you are are a journal writer, or a novelist… or maybe a daily diary is for you. You could be like me and love writing screenplays as well as novels! I use Movie Magic Screenwriter to help me with organizing all my thoughts into one solid screenplay. Trust me, when writing horror, any anger, pent-up frustration or frankly just a fall out with another human being can get the juice flowing. Use it to fuel a story… maybe of how you would have stood up to your boss… or ex-friend. How the character dealt with being a scapegoat or wronged for a stupid reason.
You could also write a novel with the possibility of publications! For example, I’ve finished my first novel and it is in the editing phases (they take forever). Once I am done, I plan on uploading it to various EBook publication sights. I am going to turn my novel into possible cash. Sure, the story might have some of the frustrations of daily life written in it, but I’m turning it into a positive thing. Even if I make nothing at all – I’ve completed and published my idea.
Just remember one major thing – THIS IS A WORK OF FICTION! You know the disclaimer at the bottom of movies – take it to heart. Don’t steal someone’s work either… it’s not fun to be wronged in this way. I’ve been there and it is truly one of the vilest things you can do to someone else. Especially when you worked very hard on it.
2. Play Sports or Go To A Gym
I’ve mentioned it more often than not but I am an athlete. I play sports. Sure, I’m not playing them like I used to in school but I still play. Softball, basketball, hockey, tennis, judo… it keeps you active and burning negative energy. If you go to the gym, get on those weights, treadmills or the elliptical .. keep pushing and getting all that rage out. The side effect is simple – burning negative energy, you end up getting in better shape as well… and that leads to better self-confidence which can help you handle situations better, to begin with.
3. VIDEO GAMES
Right about now people are screaming about how this is bad, how kids sit in front of the television for hours, blah blah blah. I don’t say sit in front of the television and spend your life there. I say use it for entertainment! I love Mass Effect 3 simply because I enjoy an RPG (role-playing game) with the best of them – but I also scream, get frustrated want to break the game… so I kind of don’t recommend a game that requires lots of thought. I play multi-player games. My nephews play Call of Duty: Black Ops online with their friends. It might not be your type of game, but many people refer to is as a mindless source of fun. The operative word here – MINDLESS. It will allow you to shoot things, get the aggression out and move on. That being said, if you start calling characters you shoot someone’s name… people around you might start to worry. Oh, and if you forget what day it is, who you are married to and how you spent your entire life’s savings on a game – you need to seek help.
The end result is simple – you have to find a way to deal with your anger. Maybe these ideas don’t work for you, find something that does. If nothing helps then maybe you should see assistance from another more qualified person. At the end of the day, you only have one life to live and the point is to live it. If you continue making Deals With Devils you might lose yourself… before you even get a chance to enjoy it.
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